Tuesday, July 14, 2009
Why Are We Happy?
“Some of those situations may, no doubt, deserve to be preferred to others; but none of them can deserve to be pursued with that passionate ardour which drives us to violate the rules of either of prudence or of justice, or to corrupt the future tranquility of our minds, either by shame from the remembrance of our own folly, or by remorse from the horror of our own injustice.”
To Start With...
I'm lucky to have no audience. No one that I have to censor my words for, though my personality is starting to catch up with my age (30), and I don't have as many bad things to say about people. Especially the people I love.
There's a certain grouping of people that I have a hard time describing, because we've all remained close knit for a very long time, some of us since we were in high school, nearly all of us since we were just out of it. It's been noted by a person who was initiated much later into it that the most fascinating aspect of this group of people is how it is constantly in transition. Best friends within it will break up and form new relationships with the people from the same group, but everyone stays in touch, everyone knows the important things going on with eachother, everyone still loves eachother.
As we've gotten older, it's obvious that it's become less about these dramatic terms and conditions that are created when something goes wrong within, and most everyone is agreed that it's starting to seem that we're all together for better or for worse. Thus, we no longer have to kiss anyone or anything goodbye, we can now create space and leave doors open for reconciliation in the future.
If it seems my first entry is about the struggles within this group of people, it's only to illustrate that the group is strong, rather than weak. Because for all the things we've been through, the point is, we remain intact. We remain intact, but different than we were three years ago, six years ago, nine years ago, twelve...
As for our origin. We are criminally, unreasonably and fallibly cool. Egos the size of Jupiter, self-esteems sometimes for shit. We mostly all grew up in and around the San Francisco Bay Area. While me and a very few others still live there, and it's referred to as homebase, most of our numbers are living in New York (Brooklyn, to be exact), and as of tomorrow, Los Angeles. We're about 10-20 strong, and that depends on whether you count the core groups' significant others or those who have managed to come and go (like I said, a rare feat of pure will power).
You probably noticed the coincidence (not really) in timing of this posting and the aforementioned move to Los Angeles. While it's not the first time that those in our midst have moved on to LA, they've since come back, it IS the first time since we all started treating eachother like a family as opposed to friends caught up in whatever we were into at the time.
There have been weddings now, holidays, cross-country trips, and love, finally, taken time to be expressed. It's not as if those who are moving to LA will no longer share in those moments.
But as I've struggled to define myself within that group of people and reconciled with titles ever-changing titles as those who've been closest to me have drifted, and those who were adrift have moved closer... the truth is, we are a group of best friends. Some are closer to others, but at some point during it's existence I could easily say I could rely on each member individually as my particular rock. I'm enthused to see who is next to be someone who relies on me, and me them.
I love you people. Laure@, Angel, Felicity, David, Son, Bianc@, Laughlin, Chuckie, Emily, their partners AO, Nico, Joey, Kanda, Mitya, Chris, even you Mark. Forgive me if I forgot to mention someone. Good luck in your lives, we will see eachother at every important crossroad. Everytime you undergo a great change, you will see one of us at it's beginning, middle, and end, in some capacity. Let that sense of permanence be your lighthouse
There's a certain grouping of people that I have a hard time describing, because we've all remained close knit for a very long time, some of us since we were in high school, nearly all of us since we were just out of it. It's been noted by a person who was initiated much later into it that the most fascinating aspect of this group of people is how it is constantly in transition. Best friends within it will break up and form new relationships with the people from the same group, but everyone stays in touch, everyone knows the important things going on with eachother, everyone still loves eachother.
As we've gotten older, it's obvious that it's become less about these dramatic terms and conditions that are created when something goes wrong within, and most everyone is agreed that it's starting to seem that we're all together for better or for worse. Thus, we no longer have to kiss anyone or anything goodbye, we can now create space and leave doors open for reconciliation in the future.
If it seems my first entry is about the struggles within this group of people, it's only to illustrate that the group is strong, rather than weak. Because for all the things we've been through, the point is, we remain intact. We remain intact, but different than we were three years ago, six years ago, nine years ago, twelve...
As for our origin. We are criminally, unreasonably and fallibly cool. Egos the size of Jupiter, self-esteems sometimes for shit. We mostly all grew up in and around the San Francisco Bay Area. While me and a very few others still live there, and it's referred to as homebase, most of our numbers are living in New York (Brooklyn, to be exact), and as of tomorrow, Los Angeles. We're about 10-20 strong, and that depends on whether you count the core groups' significant others or those who have managed to come and go (like I said, a rare feat of pure will power).
You probably noticed the coincidence (not really) in timing of this posting and the aforementioned move to Los Angeles. While it's not the first time that those in our midst have moved on to LA, they've since come back, it IS the first time since we all started treating eachother like a family as opposed to friends caught up in whatever we were into at the time.
There have been weddings now, holidays, cross-country trips, and love, finally, taken time to be expressed. It's not as if those who are moving to LA will no longer share in those moments.
But as I've struggled to define myself within that group of people and reconciled with titles ever-changing titles as those who've been closest to me have drifted, and those who were adrift have moved closer... the truth is, we are a group of best friends. Some are closer to others, but at some point during it's existence I could easily say I could rely on each member individually as my particular rock. I'm enthused to see who is next to be someone who relies on me, and me them.
I love you people. Laure@, Angel, Felicity, David, Son, Bianc@, Laughlin, Chuckie, Emily, their partners AO, Nico, Joey, Kanda, Mitya, Chris, even you Mark. Forgive me if I forgot to mention someone. Good luck in your lives, we will see eachother at every important crossroad. Everytime you undergo a great change, you will see one of us at it's beginning, middle, and end, in some capacity. Let that sense of permanence be your lighthouse
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